Are you wasting my time? (Are you just being kind?)

I learned a lot this weekend. And not because I finally saw my first episode of Desperate Houswives. (Though that was educational, for sure.)

Actually, I should say re-learned, as everything I “learned” I, in fact, already knew. But every so often it appears I need to be reminded. Things like:

• Sometimes when the rain stops, your mood improves.



• The people that really matter are always going to be there for you when you need them. So really, why waste time and energy trying to make the people who don’t be people who do, or the people who won’t be people who will. Right?



• Further to that, sometimes the people who are there for you just need to be asked. And there’s no harm (or shame) in asking.



• Irrational compulsions are surmountable. Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean it’s impossible. And sometimes, it takes being met halfway. Not every responsibility is individual; not every burden must be shouldered alone.



• Fear and jealousy can make you do crazy things. Like sending a runaway teen away to Utah to search for the man he thinks is his father but who you know is not, when his real father is really right there under his nose. Or, like describing to your mother’s boyfriend the way she sounds when having an orgasm.

Oh, wait. That was Desperate Housewives. (So, did that pharmacist guy, like, kill that woman’s husband or something???)